This Is Why So Many People Stay In Unhappy Relationships

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The researchers believe that since people are genuinely altruistic and hard-wired to consider other people’s needs, meaning that we don’t want to ditch our partners and leave them heartbroken or unable to cope without us. In essence, “stay/leave decisions are based… also on the partner’s perceived dependence on the relationship.”

Sure, not everyone is that selfless—in fact, if the sheer number of jerks in the dating world are any indication, most people aren’t—but if you think about it, doing nice things for other people tends to make us feel good. Whether it’s letting someone cut in front of us in line at Starbucks or helping an old woman get her groceries into her car, small acts of kindness benefit us just as much as other people. If you put that in a relationship context, it makes sense that making our partners happy, in this case by staying with them, might wear off on us and ensure that we don’t feel like terrible people. relationships,relationships,relationships

The experiments researchers performed to reach this conclusion are interesting for sure, but more interesting is the idea that maybe we’re way more caring and considerate (but hopefully not self-sacrificial) than we give ourselves credit for. relationships,relationships,relationships

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