We’ve all been there: stuck in a relationship that was uninspired, unfulfilling, or even toxic. We know we deserve better and we need to get out, but we just can’t bring ourselves to cut the cord. Sometimes there are obvious reasons for this—we have kids together, our finances are tight, or we legitimately want to work through the hard times and see if there’s something salvageable on the other side—but many times we get caught up for reasons we can’t comprehend. Well, a new study has finally discovered the surprising reason we can’t quit our unhappy relationships.
The University of Utah’s Samantha Joel and colleagues questioned our long-held assumptions for why we remain in unhappy relationships, which are usually pretty self-centered. In addition to the reasons listed above, we sometimes stay with the wrong people because we dread getting back into the dating world and meeting someone new or we hate admitting that we’ve already sunk so much time into this relationship and by leaving, it would all be wasted. However, Joel et al. posit that maybe we’re staying not for our own reasons, but for the sake of our partners. relationships,relationships,relationships