If you and your partner keep breaking up only to get back together again, you’re not alone — something you probably already knew. According to research, roughly 50 percent of couples who breakup end up giving it another go. As to whether or not it will last the next time around or if several more breakups are in the future, no one can say for sure (excepts psychics), but there are some very specific reasons why people go for round two — or 10.
1. THEY FELT INDIFFERENT ABOUT BREAKING UP IN THE FIRST PLACE.The study found that the reason a lot of couples broke up only to get back together again was because they felt ambivalent about breaking up in the first place. Like, should we? Sure, why the the hell not? You can’t seem to get over the fact that I started Strangers Things 2 without you, so let’s call it quits.
2. THEY BELIEVE THEIR PARTNER HAS CHANGED.When it comes to getting back together, no matter how much time has passed, couples turn to the belief that their partner has changed and changed for the better. Although, honestly, do people ever really change? Really?
3. THEY ASSUME COMMUNICATION WILL BE IMPROVED.Because communication is so insanely fundamental in securing a relationship that’s going to work and not fall apart at the seams, couples who decide to give it another whirl convince themselves that wherever the communication was lacking before, it will be magically improved when they got back together. Although, as the researchers point out, being better at communication has nothing to do with magic and everything to do with working on one’s communication skills. Go figure.
4. THEY’VE ALREADY INVESTED SO MUCH TIME. Couples that break up but get back together figure they’ve already put in so much time, do they really want to do that with someone else? Does anyone want to start over and, dare I say it, endure the whole dating thing? Hell no.