In my first year of college, I had two short-term romantic relationships with women, both of them older than me. It was fun to experiment, but I’ve only ever dated men outside of that. Before and after those relationships, I’ve exclusively dated men, which is why I’ve never mentioned my experiences with women to my boyfriend.
1. IT’S SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED A LONG TIME AGO.It’s been years since I dated a woman, so I don’t see the need to bring it up now. My boyfriend hasn’t told me about all of his sexual history either. I just think that it’s best to leave the past in the past, especially when it’s already been put to bed. Do I want to know about all the people my boyfriend has slept with? Hell no! I take him for the man he is now, and I want him to do the same with me.
2. I’M NOT SURE HOW TO LABEL MY SEXUALITY SO I’D RATHER NOT BRING IT UP.We live in a world with dozens of labels for sexuality. I honestly don’t know where I fit on the spectrum. I’m afraid that if I tell my boyfriend about my relationships, then he’ll ask me what I am. How can I talk about it when I don’t know how to label it? I’m not embarrassed about my relationships with women, they just fall in this weird period of my life when I was experimenting. I’m pretty sure they were a one-time thing, but I don’t know what to call that so I’d rather not bring it up.
3. IT DOESN’T HAVE ANY BEARING ON THE LIFE I WANT TO HAVE MOVING FORWARD.This is a big one for me. Outside of the two short relationships I had, I’ve never considered dating another woman. I’ve been physically attracted to them, but I’ve never wanted to take that next step. Why should I bring up something that is irrelevant to who I am now and where I want my life to go?relationships,relationships,relationships