It starts with affection but it goes much deeper.
Sometimes it’s hard to know for sure what you can reasonably expect from your partner:
- Should she return every text at the earliest opportunity?
- Should he make time to hang out with you every weekend?
- Should you split the bill 50-50 every time you go out?
But before you can resolve these specific questions, you need to establish the basics—the things you should ask, with confidence, from every relationship. Following are 8 such “basics” you have a right to expect from every romantic relationship.
Your partner may express this either in words, behavior, or both, but physical affection, such as hugging, kissing, back or foot rubs, or holding hands is especially important in romantic relationships. Your partner should like you as a person, and be able to demonstrate that in a way that reaches you.
When you’re hurting, you have a right to expect your partner to be, in the words of Phil McGraw, “a soft place to fall.” He or she should be tender with you if you’re in pain. A partner’s not obligated to read your mind, or be “in it” with you. They don’t have to feel the same way you do. It just needs to matter to him or her that you feel bad.
A good partner shows respect—for you as a person, and for your boundaries. Although he or she may disagree with you, there’s no name-calling or ridicule from a respectful partner, even in the name of “just teasing.” A respectful partner knows and admires your strengths, is gracious about your weaknesses—and doesn’t willfully engage in boundary violations. relationships,relationships,relationships