When it comes to dating, there’s a seemingly endless list of difficult decisions to be made — whether or not to get married, where to live… who gets to choose the movie. But perhaps the most difficult of them all is coming to terms with the signs your relationship is falling apart, and deciding it’s time to move on.
Most of us go into relationships hoping they will work out for the long haul. And when it looks like that’s not going to be the case, it can suck. A lot. Of course there are a million and one reasons why couples go their separate ways, but there are a few true deal breakers that almost always lead to the end.
“Some of the insurmountable ‘deal breakers’ in a relationship are one person pushing to make a more formal commitment and the other not being ready. Another is partners of two different faiths refusing to come to a compromise about what religion(s) to raise children in. Other common areas are when a spender marries a saver, and one partner is not willing to work on this issue to where both partners are comfortable,” says psychologist Nicole Martinez, Psy.D., LCPC, in an email to Bustle.
For any of these reasons, or perhaps something entirely different, you and your partner may be experiencing some distance. Here are some signs that the relationship is on it’s way out, and that it may be time to move on.
1. You No Longer Communicate
Good communication is a fundamental part of any healthy relationship as you resolve arguments, and decide how to run your lives as a couple. It may not go smoothly at first, but communication can be worked on and improved over the years. However, if one or both of you isn’t willing to put in the effort — or has checked out all together — it’s obviously a huge indicator that it’s time to move on.
2. You Don’t Spend Time Together
If your relationship was good in any way, you’d still want to spend time together. Movie nights, dinner dates — they’d still be options, instead of distant memories. So take note if your partner no longer wants to hang. Martinez points to this as a bad sign, saying, “They are spending more and more time away from you on designated nights, and have excuses for why this is.” Sound familiar? Then it may be a sign it’s over.